Have you had trouble getting in the mood lately? It can be so frustrating when your partner is horny and well; you aren’t. Don’t stress out about it though that will just make it worse.
Remember, you’re not alone, according to this article it’s a common problem that many women face at some point in their lives. Christian Graugaard from the Sexology Research Centre, University of Aalborg, Denmark said: “Sexuality is a complex affair, where the biological, psychological, and social factors all play a role.”
This means that sexual desire is more than just hormones and biology.
So, before you head to the doctor try some of these more natural tips to give your libido a boost.
You must admit, even the name sounds fun!
We all know how important keeping our bodies in good physical shape is and the same goes for your pelvic floor muscles. Vaginal toning will help sex be more pleasurable for you and your lover. Kegels aren’t hard to do; you just need to learn the proper technique to get the results you crave.
This article has some great information on how to do them correctly.
2. Keep Your Stress in Check
Our emotions can get in the way of things sometimes. Stress, anxiety, and depression are some of the most significant culprits in having a low sex drive. If you’ve noticed that you have issues in these areas, you might want to tackle the problems and see if there’s an improvement.
There are many things that can help you calm down without resorting to prescriptions. While prescription drugs are beneficial, many of them have sexual side effects that could make your problem worse.
Experiment to find things that help you relax and make it into part of your routine. For instance, each night soak in a hot bath and listen to your favorite music for 20 – 30 minutes.
Or maybe try yoga, meditation or massage therapy, which are all very relaxing. Daily exercise is also one of the best ways to alleviate stress.
3. Aphrodisiac Foods Aren’t the Best Solution
We’ve all heard about foods that are magically supposed to turn us on. Unfortunately, forcing yourself to choke down oysters if you don’t enjoy them isn’t going to do anything to get you excited.
Sex therapist Vanessa Marin said “In general, food doesn’t have a huge effect on your libido. If the act of eating oysters and chocolate feels sensuous, you’re naturally going to get a little revved up.”
So, if feeding each other strawberries dipped in chocolate sounds like a sexy good time to you and your partner, then go for it!
4. Don’t Forget to Exercise
Exercise has fantastic benefits to help your sex drive. If you regularly exercise you will look and feel better which improves your body image and confidence levels.
Exercise increases the blood flow to your sexual organs, and it boosts the amount of lubrication we naturally make. It also dramatically reduces our stress levels which is one of the number one issues that hurt our sex drives.
Increasing the number of orgasms, you have can raise your sex drive. Many women have difficulty reaching the big ‘O’ during penetration. So, taking time to learn what works for you when you masturbate, will help you orgasm easier when you are with a partner.5. Pleasure Yourself
You can share the techniques you’ve discovered, and your lover is sure to find that sexy.
Let’s face it; if you never ‘get off’ during sex then it starts to seem like a chore, where you just please your partner. That alone can make it less enticing if you think you’re going to be sitting around afterward, worked up and ready to go still. Learning what works for you, is sure to work wonders when you’re with your lover.
6. Start a Sexy New Hobby
Maybe you just need to feel sexy again. Start trying new things that you’ve always found interesting but may have never had the guts to try.
There are a variety of sexy exercise and dance classes out there like belly-dancing, burlesque, yoga, hip-hop, and pole-dancing. These can get your blood flowing in all the right areas and make you feel incredibly sexy.
7. How Does Your Body React to Birth Control?
If your sex drive was beautiful before you started taking the birth control pill, then you might want to try different forms of contraception.
Hormones can play a prominent role in our libido. Even though most women who take them don’t notice a difference, many women can’t because they cause too many unintended side effects. There are many options out there that you can try that aren’t hormonal so if you think your birth control pill might be the issue, talk to your doctor.
8. Sexy Lingerie or Toys
Spice it up a little!
Maybe your regular sex has gotten a tad bit repetitive and lacks the excitement it once had. Surprise your love by wearing some sexy lingerie under your clothes for them to find when you undress. Or you can even do a little strip tease for them.
For some reason, sex toys are a bit taboo still, and a lot of people feel awkward discussing them with their partners, but a lot of people are interested in them and might just be embarrassed to bring it up first. Many couples have found that it’s just the spark their sex lives needed to get back on track though, so it’s worth a conversation to see if it’s something you’d both be interested in.
9. Take Time To Make Sex a Priority
Unfortunately, we live in a world that gives us little time to relax. It seems like every minute of our day is scheduled to the max and we just go, go, go all the time.
Slow it down a little and start focusing on your sex life again. Instead of waiting until the end of the night when you’re both exhausted, switch it up a little. The minute you are both alone together take time to get it on. Think back to when you first got together and still had that ‘can’t wait to rip your clothes off’ mentality.
Tap into that again because there is nothing sexier than someone who’s turned on by you. Instead of sex at the end of date-night, make it a way to start it off right!
10. When All Else Fails, See Your Doctor
We hope these tips help you out in your quest for a better sex life, but if they don’t, you might want to talk to your doctor to see what they have to say.
There could be an underlying condition that’s causing the issue that you just don’t know about. Your doctor knows how important having a good sex life is to the happiness of their patients so don’t be shy about discussing this issue with them. It can’t hurt to try!
Please Share with Your Friends and FamilyLet us know in the comments what you think about these tips, and if you have any of your own, you’d like to share. I’m sure our readers would be appreciative of any and all advice!
About the Author: Bethany Vincent is a writer from La Grange Kentucky who has loved playing with words since she first learned to speak. She lives with her teenage son and adopted dog daughter in a cute, yellow house with a picket fence. During college at the University of Louisville, she could be found at the writing center most of the time and her main areas of focus were literature, creative writing, and visual arts. Bethany has contributed articles and created content for many websites and blogs during her writing career. In her free time, she enjoys gardening, juggle-dancing, yoga, photography, cooking and singing along with her favorite songs while in the car driving. In the future, she plans to finish writing her first book and hopes to travel to all the beautiful places that she’s read about.