All of us have a past, which has taught us some valuable lessons. Unfortunately, not all of the experiences are positive. The hardest lessons have probably taught us the most. But the lessons have made some of us mistrust others and close themselves to love.
Once you earn the trust of a person, who has been hurt badly, they might be the most beautiful souls you ever meet. Their negative experiences have made them appreciate good and honest people even more.
People, who have a hard time opening up to others are actually very kind-hearted and loyal once you get to know them. Here are 13 things you should know when falling in love with a girl who keeps their heart guarded:
1. Material Things Don’t Impress Her
She does not care about money, fame, gifts nor appearance. Falling in love with a girl who keeps her heart guarded only treasures your personality and mindset. If you are being real with her and care about people more than things, then you can win her over.
2. Actions Speak Louder Than Words
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She has already heard all the sweet talk and lived in a false illusion. Now she does not care about your words and promises unless you actually act on them. So never make her a promise you cannot keep because she does not waste her time on people she cannot count on.
3. She Will Take Care Of You
Because she has been burnt in the past, she can really treasure a good man and a healthy relationship. When you are loyal, caring and honest with her, she will love you with all her heart and make you feel like a true king.
4. A Second Chance Is Highly Unlikely
Her past experiences have taught her to walk away when she is not being treated right. Now she respects herself enough to know, when a relationship turns toxic and when it starts being unhealthy.
5. She Values Your Vulnerability
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She is honest and real with you and expects the same in return. She does not want a macho, who is too afraid to show his feelings. She wants a real man, who is not afraid to share his true emotions, thoughts, and fears with her. This will bring you closer and make you understand each other even more.
6. She Has More Empathy Than Others
She feels for other people and animals. She has seen some dark times, and her heart aches for everyone else, who is going through something similar. She might want to give some money to a homeless person or help someone in need. Never laugh at her or try to stop her. Let her help others because maybe this will take her pain away as well.
7. She Is A Survivor
All her experiences have made her stronger. She knows her strength and abilities as well. She can face all the challenges, that life throws at her. She is courageous and does not stop before she gets what she wants.
8. She’s Independent
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She has a hard time depending on other people or asking for favors. Sometimes she might need something from you badly, but she is too proud to ask for it. In these cases, it is good to give her hand but not to make a big deal about it. She appreciates you, but she does not want to feel dependent on others.
9. She Can Keep Her Cool
She does not panic over little things. She tries to avoid stress and negativity. She knows that everything will work out one way or another, and there is no point in losing one’s mind over little things. She has seen the worst, so small things do not get to her.
10. She Needs Time
She has a hard time trusting you and adapting to the relationship. Give her time and make her feel safe and loved. Do not push changes on her, because she might get scared and just run from you.
11. She Overthinks But Does Not Share Too Much
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She might have a lot of fears about your relationship or her personal life that she does not share. She tends to think that she needs to handle everything on her own and not to bother you. She also is afraid of you finding her fears and thoughts strange, so never judge her when she once does decide to share her mind with you.
12. She Will Easily Drop You
Earning her trust and getting her to open up to you takes a lot of time and patience. Unfortunately, it is very easy to lose her. When you do something wrong or betray her trust in any way, she might walk away without any explanation.
13. She Appreciates Your Flaws
When she and falls deeper in love with you, she learns more about you and your flaws. Do not be afraid, she likes your peculiarity, and she appreciates you sharing this side of yourself with her.
Falling in love with a girl who keeps her heart guarded is not an easy task. But once you get through the hardest part and earn her trust, she might be the most loyal and beautiful soul you will ever meet.
Making her happy and watching her blossom is a wonderful thing and you are one lucky guy when you get to experience that.
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