You could bet your entire life that you hadn’t seen a more attractive person in all the years you lived than the person sitting in front of you. Their smile, their laugh, the way they scrunch their nose, the way their eyes shaped like crescents when they laugh. You’re already asking everything that’s holy if it’s even legal to be that perfect. Every word they say is like verses from a Holy Scripture.
You want to know everything there is to your “special one.” When does he sleep? What’s her favorite color? What’s her favorite food? Is he right-handed or left-handed? They are the last thing you think about before you sleep and the first thing you want to see when you open your eyes.
For all the single people out there reading this, you probably haven’t cringed harder. However, for a person who is just a few weeks into a new relationship, this is something they’re intoxicated with.
I guess we can say love is no less than a drug. You’re already on cloud nine lost in dreams, while everyone around you is wondering if you’ve taken the leap of faith from the brink of insanity. It is this frenzy that drives you to jump over the moon for your partner, to throw your priorities in the bin if it means your partner is happy.
You can’t get over how compatible you two are yet so contrasting. You two fit together like a lock and key, like two pieces of a puzzle that are far from being similar. Yet the synchrony and telepathy you both feel cannot be put into words. It’s not only their touch that you crave, but every moment you spend with them.
But like every drug you intake, you need a higher dose every time to reach the same level of intoxication. Love works a bit similarly. When you’ve got to know everything there possibly is, what are the things to talk about with your boyfriend? You don’t feel like the fifteen-year-old giddy teenager you felt back then. Your conversations are romantic and intimate but nothing that would ignite a spark. You start your calls with a ‘hey, how are you?’ more out of formality rather than actually wanting to know.
There’s only one thought filling your head. So is this the end? Well, if you want it to be, it certainly is. But my question to you is: if the fire is dying do you let it extinguish or feed it branches and twigs to keep it alive?
So what are these branches and twigs? They are romantic questions to ask your boyfriend. They are questions that set your relationship apart from the rest, questions that let you connect on a deeper level, questions that bind your soul. Read 5 questions to ask your partner before you get engaged.
Generally, the things to talk about with your boyfriend don’t necessarily have to be rehearsed. They should be more spontaneous and from the heart. However, here are a few intimate questions to ask your partner as a good ice-breaker.
- What’s one hurdle that was very difficult for you to overcome?
- Recall one incident where you refrained to tell me that my actions hurt you.
- If you could change something about you, physically or otherwise, what would it be?
- What’s one thing you’ve done that you’re not proud of?
- Do you regret anything?
- What’s one thing you prioritize in a friendship?
- Do you plan to have a family with me?
- What is your opinion about your relations with your family? Do you think you had a better childhood compared to others?
- If in an unfortunate case of a fire, what is the one thing you would bring along with you after saving your family and pets and why?
- What made you realize that I was the one?
- Is there something you want to know about me but haven’t been able to bring it up?
- What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
- If you found a crystal ball that would answer any of your queries, what would be your first question?
- If you woke up tomorrow in an alternative reality without me, what’s the one thing you would miss about me?
- Have you ever sung a song with all your heart for yourself or for someone else?
- What is a perfect day for you?
- Have you ever cried your heart out in front of someone or alone and why?
- What’s the most terrible moment of your life?
- Which moment makes it to the top of list as the best?
- Is there anything you don’t want me to know about you?
- What do you think I could contribute to this relationship?
- Evaluate all the changes you have observed in yourself over the past five years.
- List any one thing you don’t like about me
- What’s one reflection of you that you see in our kids?
- Do you see yourself growing old with me?
The need of such deep things to talk about with your boyfriend takes roots from your need to be special. It’s never about being the one who’s always by their side. It’s about being the one who knows the most as compared to anyone else. What better opportunity could you have than an honest session of intimate questions to ask your partner?
These conversations are never forced. It doesn’t have to be a specific conference that you have to separately take out time for. It’s the questions that your heart is dying to know. It could be between a movie or random nights under the starlit sky. Some things cannot be learned from the internet; they come from within.