Being in love can be blinding, you only see your lover’s good qualities and ignore the bad stuff. It is important to choose wisely, who are you going to spend your life with.
So be aware of these 15 behaviors, because if your man acts like this, you should definitely NOT marry him:
1. HE DOES NOT TRUST YOU
Although, you have never given him a reason not to trust you and he still checks your phone or does not like you to hang out with other guys? This will get even worse with time and before you notice you will have even more restrictions on. Also, think about why he does not trust you? Is it because of his past or maybe he is not that loyal himself. Anyway, this is not a great quality to be around, so don’t.
2. HE HATES ANIMALS
Yes, there are actually some people who do not like animals. If he is one of them, then run. Not liking animals shows a lack of empathy and kindness. Also, in case you are planning on having a family with him in the future, he would not be a great father figure, because of his careless personality.
3. HE DOES NOT FOLLOW YOUR AGREEMENTS
Every relationship has some ground rules or agreements that the lovers have settled between the two. It can be about cleaning, grocery shopping, cooking, washing dishes, having time for each other or plans for the weekend. If he does not respect or follow your agreements, he will always let you down. Even if he says he is going to be better, his actions speak louder than words.
4. HE BREAKS PROMISES
If he keeps making promises and fails to hold them, it means that he does not care about you or the relationship that much. He might just be having fun and not wanting to commit to you for good.
5. HE GIVES YOU SECONDARY TREATMENT
You know life is too short. Do not waste your time on a person, who does not want to be with you. The relationship is all about the mutual effort and both working hard to make it work. If he does not care about the relationship and does not make an effort now, he will never start to make one as well. So don’t fool yourself and leave.
6. HE THINKS HE IS PERFECT
Of course, confidence is sexy, but he cannot be that narrow-minded. If he believes that all his acts and decisions in life are good, he does not have a critical mind and this way it is impossible for him to grow as a person.
This also affects the relationship as well, because if he thinks he is so perfect and he is always right, then you are the one who is constantly wrong and must change yourself. If he is not able to see his mistakes or find a compromise, then don’t bother trying as well.
7. HE FINDS EXCUSES FOR EVERYTHING
Sometimes it is understandable that things do not go as you planned and you must reschedule some plans. But if this happens often and he never makes it to your dates or trips, he is not just that into you. Find a man, who wants to find time for you and who appreciates your effort as well.
8. HE BRINGS OUT OLD FIGHTS
There are some downfalls in every relationship, but it is not healthy to keep coming back to them all the time. Some things are better left in the past, especially when you have talked it through and learned from your mistakes. It is a terrible feature if he just brings up old argues and conflicts, because this way he brings a lot of negativity to your relationship.
9. HE DOES NOT BOTHER TO TALK TO YOU
When you are having a misunderstanding or are mad at each other, the most important thing is to talk it through and understand each other’s point of views. If he does not bother to listen to you, it shows that he does not care about you. This relationship cannot last long because at one point you will have a lot of unsolved issues.
10. HE LIES
If he has cheated or lied to you about something, he will do it again. You can never be quite sure if he is spending time at work or meeting somebody. And who is he texting? These questions will drive you nuts, and you will become an insecure and anxious person.
11. HE IS TOO CLINGY
It is great if he loves you with his whole heart, but it does not mean that you have to spend every minute of every day together. If he cannot do anything without you and only sees his point of life being with you, that’s too obsessive. You need to find someone, who has their dreams and ambitions, who is independent enough to be by himself, but who chooses to spend his free time with you.
12. HE HATES HIS FAMILY
That is a dangerous sign. If he does not get along with his parents, he might not get along with you as well someday. Parents are the ones who raised us and taught us. They have done so much for us, and if he does not understand nor appreciate that, he is just a douchebag. Getting along with his family and relatives is an important feature, so look for that in a man!
13. HE SMOKES
If he cannot give up smoking, it shows that he has an addiction. He can develop more addictions later in life as well because he is a weak person. Also, if he is not willing to give up smoking for you, does he love you? Smoking is dangerous for himself and you as well. What happens if you want to have a family with him someday? Will he smoke in front of your kids as well?
14. HE IS IMMATURE
When he does not take responsibility and always blames others for everything that went wrong, he is just childish. Also, cutting people off because of small arguments is a foolish thing to do. Being too impatient and stubborn will not get him far in life. Do not stick around to find out that.
15. HE IS ABUSIVE
That is the worst behavior there is. If he hits you, walk away immediately. It does not matter if he feels sorry for or brings you flowers and promises never to do it again. If he can hit you once, he can most definitely hit you again. Violence is never the answer, and you have never done something to deserve this. Even if he does not abuse you physically, but is emotionally abusive, walk away. Being in a relationship with a manipulative and abusive person will bring you down. So leave while you still can.
After the first relationship period of butterflies and sparkle, people start to show their true selves. Some people are still the same and treat you in a good way, but others might surprise you in a bad way. Never trick yourself into thinking that they will change or it will pass because we are the way we are and it is damn hard to change a man. It is much easier to find another one which matches with you more. Do not settle for anything less than what makes you happy!