When you first become involved with a new partner, everything is still new and exciting. The butterflies in your tummy are still fluttering about, and there’s a zap of excitement when they slide their fingers across your skin. It’s as if the two of you can’t get enough of one another; you’re even getting into better shape because of all the marathon sex.
As time passes things change, the lusty sex might slow down a little, but there are many ways to tell if your relationship is meant to stand the test of time.
1. Your Life Has Improved
Have you noticed a difference in the quality of your life since you’ve been together? It could be something as small as being in a good mood more often which is great for beating away the stress of everyday life.
Or perhaps you’ve moved in together and are splitting bills which will give you more spending money and free time with one another. It’s always nice to have a partner that you love, to tackle the ups and downs of life. If you have noticed that your life is better with them in it, then don’t let them go!
2. Open Communication
Do you feel like you can talk to your partner about anything and not feel self-conscious? If you’re comfortable talking to them, even if it’s about doubts or issues you have in the relationship it’s a sign, they’re the one. You should be able to speak without the fear of being judged or looked down on. Being able to communicate effectively is one of the most significant indicators that your relationship will last.
When you can talk about anything, including issues in the relationship, then you’ll be able to think of new ideas on how to fix any problems that arise.
3. Not Just Lovers, but Friends as Well
When you consider your partner to be your best friend the relationship is stronger. Sure, passion, sex, and excitement are fun, but if there is not an underlying friendship, the relationship won’t last. A true friend always has your back and will still love and take care of you, even if your sick and can’t be sexy or exciting for a night.
4. You Still Have Your Hobbies and Friends
You had a life before your significant other came along, and you should still have it after you’re together. While it’s essential for you to be close friends with your partner you should still be able to do all the things you loved before you got together.
For example, if you love yoga, but your partner isn’t into it, then you should still take time to go to your classes and practice your poses. In a relationship that’s meant to last, you should not have to give up the things you love. After all, it’s not like you’re going to spend every moment together from now until the end of time so you’ll need your interests for the times when you’re apart.
5. You Can Talk Openly About Sex
If you’re too shy to speak up about what works or doesn’t work for you in bed, then the relationship will suffer. Share those fantasies, be open about what you like, even if it embarrasses you a little bit. More often than not, your partner will be willing to try those things you might be feeling shy about bringing up.
6. You Grow With One Another
As we age things in the lifestyle department change a little bit. Maybe it was routine for you both to stay up until 3:00 a.m. partying almost every night when you first got together. But things like school, new careers and raising a family can change what was once reasonable for the two of you. The important thing is that as things change you can grow into the new roles together.
7. You Agree on the Important Stuff
A good debate can be invigorating between people who enjoy that sort of thing. However, there are some things that people can’t change, such as their morals or values. For example; if your partner is a swinger and likes to sleep with other people outside of your relationship, but you don’t want to share the one you love the most, then it will never work.
If you find that the two of you see eye to eye when it comes to the things in life that are important to you, then you’re most likely in a relationship that will last.
8. Arguments Bring You Closer
For some of us, arguments feel like the end of the world, especially if you’ve been in a toxic relationship in the past. However, some disagreements are healthy, especially when you’re not trying to prove someone wrong. If an argument is more of a power play and meant to hurt someone instead of bringing about a resolution, then the relationship will suffer.
Healthy arguments bring about a change that resolves an issue in your relationship.Do you feel like you’ve fixed a problem and are closer to one another after an argument? Then it’s a good sign that your relationship will last.
9. You Forgive One Another
No one is perfect, so when your partner makes a mistake or says something hurtful during an argument, you need to be able to forgive and move forward. Holding grudges associated with negative feelings put a lot of strain on relationships.
Being able to forgive one another shows that you do love one another and are mature enough to get over things and move forward in your relationship. We all face challenges. Eventually, it’s how you deal with them that makes or breaks your relationship.
Hopefully, this list has given you an idea of whether or not you and your lover have what it takes, to last long term. If you hold on to the love that you’ve built and can recognize some of the points from this list in your relationship, you will be together for a long time.