As the saying goes, great things come to those who wait. But if you’re single and yearning for someone you can proudly share your life with, that wait can seem like a long time – and you might often wonder when it will end.
That’s when *cue microphone* I yell “STOP!”
You don’t have to sit around and wait for Prince Charming to enter your life to start living – in fact, that is the exact opposite of what you should be doing.
Take it from someone who spent one too many years stuck in the wrong relationship – being single can be fun. Sure, you might be envious of your “taken” friends around the holidays or Valentine’s Day, but you should not let that dampen your spirits. Instead, take this time to invest in yourself and develop a stable relationship with the one person you’re going to be stuck with the rest of your life: YOU.
Take this time of solitude for what it’s worth – trust me, there are plenty of busy mom’s out there who would love to have one whole day to just themselves, instead of chasing after a potty-training two-year-old.
Take a good hard look at what you love and what you want to accomplish in your life. Do you like to travel? Go somewhere that you’ve always wanted to visit. Don’t sit around and wait for a girlfriend to also commit to the trip because then you’ll be stuck waiting around for someone else’s schedule to line up with yours. Instead, book that ticket solo, girl! Solo female travel is bursting at the seems – don’t believe me?
Just look up that hashtag on Instagram, and you’ll get a full dose of inspiration. Traveling alone, safely I might add, is such a liberating experience. It opens doors and opportunities that you might not have explored if you were going with a partner. Exploring the world with just your backpack gives you such a boost of confidence, and you never know, you might meet someone special along the way.
Even if hitting the road or skies isn’t your thing, there are bound to be tons of other hobbies or interests you can invest in for you. Maybe try that new fitness class that you’ve been eyeing – don’t worry if you feel inadequate, everyone has to start somewhere.
The first step is always the hardest, but once you take it, you can easily see the path and the next step doesn’t seem so difficult. Mixing yourself into a new crowd also opens up new doors for you. Start going to those yoga classes every week and sooner or later, you’ll have made at least a few new gal pals that you can hang with. For every person you meet, they can quickly introduce you to other new people as well.
Maybe you’ve already committed to a healthy lifestyle and have tapped out your local resources for fitness classes – don’t fret! Just commit to doing something new, something for YOU. Maybe that involves going back to school or journaling more. Write down your intentions and manifest your dreams.
Take some time each morning to meditate. Promise yourself to read more books and finish them, or to call parents more often. Invest in your life and give appreciation to the people around you – it will not only make them feel loved, but it will give you a sense of satisfaction and gratefulness that no money can buy.
When you get so busy falling in love with YOU and YOUR life, you won’t be worried about finding a mate. And the best part? That’s when all that “waiting” pays off because when you do find someone special, you will have so much more to share with them.
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About the Author: Felicia Daly is a native New Yorker with a special interest in music, painting, and books! Lots of them. Out to explore every day, Felicia loves to sip on her coffee in a local shop by her house and work as a freelance writer.