When it comes to the bedroom, women often keep their sexual desires to themselves, but one author asked some women what they really want in the bedroom. At first there was some awkward uncomfortable laughs, but then women started to open up on what they would like men to do in the bedroom.
So, here are seven things women want their man to know but are way too embarrassed to say:
1. Foreplay Should Be Longer Than 5 Minutes
If we’re going to be getting down and dirty, foreplay needs to be longer than the time it takes for you to get excited. Just because you are rock-hard doesn’t mean that our bodies is ready to go.
We need you to spend some time touching our bodies. Give us kisses, rub our backs, play with our breasts and nipples. Find out exactly what we like. It take us a little longer to be ready and spending some extra time on other areas of our bodies will help us get excited.
Slow down a little bit. You’re not competing for a gold medal here, so take your time before we really get into it.
2. Words Are Good, But Not Too Many
Just like you like to hear positive feedback from us, we want to hear things from you, too.
Keep in mind that we are NOT looking for a grunt every few seconds or the words to your best man’s speech. If we are trying a new position or you are loving what we are doing with our lips, tell us! We would like to know that what we are doing feels good (or bad).
Don’t be afraid to tell us what you want or give us a few pointers so we can do it better.
3. We Like It Rough Too (Within Reason)
Often the assumption is that women are delicate and do not like to play rough in the bedroom, but many women fantasize about getting a little rough in the bedroom. Now, when we talk about rough play, we’re not talking about anything hardcore that involves choking or causing actual pain.
We’re talking about things like a good spanking or some gentle hair-pulling. Not sure how much is too much? Just ask! We’re happy to tell you when it’s too much.
4. Let’s Try Something New
When we’re talking about experimenting, we’re definitely not talking about science.
The room doesn’t need to be turned into an escape room with a volcano that will erupt if you don’t finish in time. But, women actually do like trying new things and sometimes that involves using things like sex toys, games, or different types of lubricant.
And just because we want to use sex toys it doesn’t mean we’re not satisfied with how you’re performing in the bedroom. It’s just that sometimes it’s fun to try something new with you and spice things up in the bedroom. After all, you never know how much you’ll like something until you try it.
5. The Clitoris is My Friend (And Yours Too)
Please, please, please, do not forget this sensitive spot! If you want to guarantee that we have an orgasm, take some time to stimulate the clitoris. It’s by far the best way to guarantee we get our a happy ending. If you’re not quite sure where it is or how to stimulate it, let us know, and we’ll be more than happy to give you some lessons.
6. Spontaneous Sex is (Almost) Always a Good Idea
Just like you, we want to be surprised or caught off-guard.
If you’ve been thinking about trying a new position or just want to do something different, go for it!
The majority of the time, we’ll be game. We want you to feel comfortable enough to express yourself in the bedroom and want to help make your fantasies come true by pleasing you. The spontaneity of the adventure can be a huge turn on.
7. We Both Need a Grand Finale
We know that you want to finish, but remember that we want to climax too.
Ideally we would both finish at the same time, or just in general, but often guys forget that we need to climax too and sex ends after they cum.
Trust us when we say that there’s nothing more frustrating than getting all excited only to not get to actually climax, so take the extra time to make sure that we get our grand finale, too!
Now that you know these 7 things that we women want in the bedroom but will never tell you, you can go forth and please your woman like she’s never been pleased before!